How A Famous Hollywood Actor And Three Little Words Helped To Save My Marriage

Three Little Words

Protasis you were to conduct a poll of a territory of the encyclopedic exoteric and asked each person in the list for their opinion concerning celebrity marriages and relationships, I am pretty sure the vast majority would say, relatively speaking, celebrity relationships tend to not last very long. Such perceptions are perhaps fuelled by our daily diet of tabloid whisper and tittle tattle where a day never seems to go by without some renown couple splitting or battling it out in the courts extra paternity rights and divorce settlements.

However, there is one Hollywood celebrity whose marriage to the same partner endured the test of time. The late Charlton Heston (1923 – 2008), Academy Award Best Actor and star of, amongst others, the 1950s Biblical epics, The Ten Commandments and Ben-Hur, a true Hollywood Great, had an acting career lasting extra than 60 years and was married to the same woman for 64 years. I will always remember an wisecrack he already gave to a question he was asked about his elongated marriage during a TV interview. While asked how his conjugality had endured for so long, which was all the expanded remarkable in an industry renowned for the high turnover of marriages and relationships, Charlton Heston’s somewhat tongue-in-cheek answer went something like, “my friend, I learnt three very consequential modicum words early on in my marriage – those three words are ‘You Are Right’ “

The Way Of Communication

Although this somewhat amusing confirmation from Charlton Heston implies a certain subservience on his part, his remark has stuck with me ever considering because it made me recognize the importance of communication. The key detail in a successful tie-in is good communication.

Now, when most people are advised to communicate, they naturally assume this means talking more. However communication is more than just talking. It is in fact the art of combining the ability to express your opinions et sequens feelings in such a way as to ensure that the person you are communicating with understands the message you trying to convey to him alternative her, with the ability to listen and understand the other person’s pinpoint of view.

Empathy Is The Watchword

The operative word here is Empathy. The word Empathy refers to this ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes, or to see their point of view. This ability to listen and to put yourself in the other person’s shoes is crucial to good communication and is the nature blood of triumphant relationships. Because human beings our minds are built in such a way spil to always want our view to prevail. There are deep psychological reasons for this to do with subsist instincts further our view of what we are. To test this out, the next time you find yourself in an argument with someone, whirl and step back from the heat like the argument and notice how the only justification the argument continues is because each concerning the pandemia intricate is trying to initiative their point from view eager to make sure they win the argument. Simply by doing a little more listening and accepting of the other person’s position will put an end to the matter.

Sadly many relationship problems rise with poor communication, in else words, not enough listening and consideration of the other person’s view. Couples often grabble that their comrade should know what they are thinking and how they felt so do negative communicate and then wonder why they feel neglected and undervalued. Therefore the next time you find yourself at odds accompanying your assistant or anyone else, retrieve Empathy is the watchword or at least remember Charlton Heston and the Three Little Words.